This moment in time is the ONLY moment you have. Truly "getting" that, viscerally knowing it is both a simple concept and a lifelong challenge. Living a life steeped in that belief is the highest goal toward alleviating suffering and bringing a vibrancy and joy into our existence. Yet our western culture doesn't allow for this very easily, as we are continually being pushed into worrying about the future or pulled into agonizing about the past -- places where our actions and angst can change exactly nothing. Yet we persist in our "human-ness" in trying to do just that! If there is one precious gift a person with Alzheimer's Disease can impart, it is that of living in the present moment, because that is all they have in many cases. If the present moment is filled with love, comfort, goodness, and kindness, then life is good. That is perhaps the very best gift of insight my mother gave to me. What gifts has caring for your loved one offered you? Sometimes one has to look very diligently to find them, but they are there. Uncovering and appreciating these rare and special gifts is an excellent coping skill to develop!
Karen is a compassionate, enthusiastic student of life, who cared for her mother for 17 years. She brings her insights, compassion, experience and desire to share knowledge and healing to this ongoing conversation with others on the caregiving path. If you are caring for a parent, spouse, friend or other loved one this site offers sanity-saving tips, open-hearted self-care ideas, and an open forum for discussion, connection and sharing resources for the journey.