If there is one message that I want to bring to you through this blog, above all others, it is that you are doing your best and perfection is not only NOT required, but can be actively damaging to your own mental health. Get rid of it -- banish it from your mind and heart, and know that the love & compassion and human-ness that you bring to your loved one is enough and IS perfect. You don't have to be! Cindy Laverty also hosts a radio show www.thecindylavertyshow.com and is on facebook, both as Cindy Laverty and The Care Company. There is a wonderful video of her philosophy on facebook if you want some encouragement and inspiration. Check it out. You can get there easily from her The Care Company website.